what matters is how much we knew to make your marriage were you should have mutual lavender spirit amwu shouldn't need to require masses and sacred presence what matters is how stupid or not how you grew up together. you would accuse me of one night a question going to give you a noble and down matchmaking actually. absolutely there is not a. i think so we've had 10 years of data to support that now i'll go back to kind of some of the comments that have been made previously and i think the last the last person rush me she kind of touched on what i want to say i mean historically when you had the idea of the arranged marriage expectations of a very very clear this you know this expectations around adjustment which has become a real bad word or sacrifice however if you use adjustment or sacrifice in a normal context in a western society these are not bad things these are sort of virtues because in the indian framework in the indian context they are there singular to the woman to adjust and to kind of completely from the from taking a new 1st name taking a new flask name changing the way y