as ann smolin said earlier in the program, self-help groups, where people share feelings with others in a similar situation, are also helpful. and, uh, it was very difficult, and i came here, and it was a great help to me. i was able to cry and say what i wanted and listen to others and, uh, feel for the others. it was a complete shock, and i thought at that point and the weeks following that i would never be the same again, and fortunately i found support groups-- this one and one in brooklyn-- which has helped me tremendously. the connection is the support group. the people in the group are the ones i want to talk to because they know about it. nothing helps one as much to understand as to be understood. when you hear somebody else say the words you have felt, it tremendously gives you a sense that you are not alone. there is hope. someone else has gone through it. some innovative therapies appear to help when obsessive thinking about stressful events gets in the way. one of these cognitive-behavioral techniques is called stress inoculation therapy. at the crime victims research ce