. >> reporter: among some of the diverse attendees, 69-year-old ann valliant.new. >> it's new to people who think the only way things are is one man, one woman. but that has not been true. >> do you think that people would be surprised how many polyamorous people there are? >> i know it. >> which was harder to come out as? as a lesbian or as a polyamorous family? >> people nowadays are willing to accept the queer community. it's almost not a big deal. there's a huge poly community but unfortunately not many of them feel that they can be open. they have to be closeted. that goes to show you it's harder to be poly than gay or lesbian, i think. >> reporter: these relationships can be inherently tricky. >> there's times i've felt i needed more and i'm not getting back. then that comes up in conversation. >> reporter: remember, melinda was the one who initially wanted to expand their partnership. >> does it make you feel frustrated or angry? >> yeah. there's been times where i've felt, you know, melinda has her guy and she has a girl. and john has two women who he's