anneke my son. it broke me. we as a society have lied to you in this we've been dishonest with because what we have said. is that you can behave any way that you choose you can make any decision or choice that you want to make whatever you feel this this day you can make those kinds of decisions and we will do the best that we can to alleviate the cons. but the fact is we cannot alleviate the consequences it is true that you make your own decisions you can choose any of these paths that you want to choose but we are being dishonest to you when we say we can help you avoid consequences there are consequences for the choices that you make having sex outside of marriage is not going to fill the void that you're trying to fill it only creates more and more of a vast open. debate within you because you are opening yourself in the most mourner of a way to another human being who is in no way committed to you and his whose actions are really out of selfishness likely and a desire to meet a need that day. the day i had