have been and extricate ourselves from those shadows, those places where we do feel bound by these anshan relationships or by these relationships that have not been, or even organizational structures, that have not been nourishing for us. i think only when we have made a good exit can we begin to launch ourselves into something productive. it really behooves us to be reflective, to be self critical, to go through this moment of pause, and look back as a way to try to extricate ourselves from those things which make us feel bound or inhibited, which make us feel reticent to take the next step. that will give us the freedom to take the next step. tavis: i have learned in my own life that when we come to those endings, those exit's, sometimes we job, and sometimes we get pushed. sometimes you go voluntarily, sometimes you go in voluntarily. the question is, help us here in terms of how we make decisions, and for that matter, advanced toward the exit, advanced toward the door, bring something to an end when that is the best option. how do we make that transition? >> it is interesting that for