. >> ashley merryman argues giving them a prize is bad for kids. >> i said it was good to praise kids. >> kids were told they are wonderful they are worried the next time they try something -- >> 40 years ago the idea of child rearing was self-esteem. they started a self-esteem task force. you are mocked by a cartoonist. make sure everyone feels good about themselves. the self-esteem movement was influential. parents were told avoid competition. competition is bad. the research is in. boosting self-esteem may be counter productive. it does not improve academic form man's. >> they become more rez sent to try things in the future. they avoid a challenge instead of going there. >> she says trophies for all is a bad idea. >> i see people so upset about getting participation trophies they dumped them into a trash can and set them on fire. >> they were insulted. he knows that was pretty andit -- pity. >> what the self-esteem of the person who isn't as good. >> you are not as good. sorry. >> you are not as handsome as brad pitt. you are not as intelligent of the dude that can do pie at 3,000