>> she did. >> did she ever specifically tell you that he had asperger's? >> yes, she told me he had asperger's. >> but did you get a sense that it was time consuming or emotion consuming? >> she was always very positive, never talked about having a rough day. that could be that when she came into the bar, that was her release and maybe she didn't want to talk about things like that, but i can't ever remember nancy having a rough day and just unloading on me. >> john, was it your impression that not a lot of people went into the house? not a lot of visitors, even friends, or did they go into the house? >> no, not a lot of people went into the house. nancy was very particular, just like me. i'm a little bit of a neat freak and i just assumed that she was towards the more extreme end, but i don't think that was it. maybe that was a little bit of an excuse and i think that adam was uncomfortable having too many people around. >> do you think that it would have been reasonable to question whether the firearms and his exposure on the range and the shooting was a

what did you learn about asperger's and society as you are watching this?y about asperger's. it's a lesson for every family today. you know, your worst nightmare is that your kid will do something a little different and some public official will see what your kid does and seize a chance to build their career by destroying your family. and we have to be so vigilant as parents because of this climate that we live in. we can't discourage innovation. people think explosives are scary, but look what albert nobel brought the world. >> a lovely account. thank you for being with us this morning. >> thank you. >>> ahead on "starting point," the pressure to fire rutger's basketball couch, after he is shown abusing players at practice. and this video viral. >> singing the blues behind bars. anderson reacting to him suddenly singing. we'll talk about this. you're watching "starting point." welcstate. the new newk what's the "new" in the new new york? a new property tax cap... and the lowest middle class income tax rate in 60 years... and a billion dollars in tax breaks

sometimes kids with aspergers can do things that are off putting. i sat with a kid in a class that put his leg over class during the -- over the head during class and 17 years old and it's off putting. we can own it and now what do we do about it? it's not distracting to everybody fine but how do we do it in a way we're honest with everyone in the room and reaching out to each other appropriately. >> you have a project and working on a thing, a whole school based project. >> yeah, well -- anyways thank you guys. this is really a great conversation. just a little bit about where we're going. "bully" the movie is backed by a team, the bully project, and we have been bringing the film and educating, training professional development largely thriewr our partnership with them and provides that to school districts and classrooms across the country for free, so educators can sign up, and if they agree to do the training and to take it seriously and embed it with the kids and the adults in the community we provide them with oftentimes busing, but often free

physical pressure has become part of what people consider when working with kids with autism or asperger's or any conditions related to it. you look around at a site like autism speaks, you will find products and tools for families with names like cozy calm weighted blankets. weighted blankets. this one, the big hug. a special hug vest. looks like an ordinary jean jacket vest but it weighs a couple of pounds on purpose. the idea is that that weight, the pressure of the hug vest or pressure of the weighted blanket with the extra weight in it can sometimes help a person with asperger's or autism to feel calm in a way that works for them. obviously it does not work for everybody. who knows exactly how it works. for some people this does work. particularly for autistic kids for whom this technique works, physical pressure, hugs and physical pressure can be part of the protocol for professionals who work with them. it's more than just a hug for a hug's sake with any kid. in some cases, it is a therapeutic measure for kids with autism. although we cannot know for sure, it seems like that context

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denied having a documented disabled condition even though his mother told people he suffered from aspergersease. >>> a 21-year-old from buck wild was found dead in his truck along with his uncle and friend. >>> video out of england. an atm is caught blowing up. thieves detonated the machine and made off with an undisclosed amount of cash. no one was hurt. the texaco manager said they are lucky the whole station didn't explode. here is a look at what's moving your money. bertha coombs has more. >> nothing quite so explosive. futures pointing to a higher start. the dow and s&p 500 closing at new all time highs. private sector jobs and the services sector. president obama is pushing banks to make more mortgages available. "the washington post" reports the move could lead to the same risky spending that caused the housing crisis. #earnings. companies can now make major announcements on facebook and twitter that could move their stock. all investors are required to receive the news at the same time. but you have to let them know you might make the announcements on twitter and facebook. >> intere

we're not talking about the asperger's, something else.ly released e-mails describe what she called living on top of a time bomb. this as growing evidence that mental illness played a role in one of the most horrific crimes in american history. a clinical psychologist is my guest now and it was the new york daily news that got a hold of the e-mails and talked about how nancy lanza, in an e-mails to her friend, i gather, talked about how doctors had no explanation for an auto immune disorder that killed her grandfather in just six weeks. how doctors found lesions on her brain in 1999 and she described that illness like living on top of a time bomb and how she's carrying the gene for a self-destruct and that adam was, too. >> yeah, we just don't know what it is. what it could have been. we're talking about lesions on the brain, something that she referred to. it could have been a leedisease a huntington's, where you see damage to the frontal lobe and you get dementia, from dementia, you get a psychosis and some of these including the kritsfi

my lowest point came when my oldest son, who has asperger's, darted out into a store parking lot.h him, but luckily an older gentleman grabbed him for me. later on i beat myself up about it, not being able to save your child is terrifying. i couldn't walk the store, much less run after a 6-year-old. i finally decided to make a change after attending a convention and listening to various motivational speakers. i did research and decided that the weight watchers core plan was a good fit for me. i did that for the majority of my weight loss. i didn't start working out right away. but eventually i started walking and working out in a pool. i grew stronger as time went on. today i teach fitness classes like zumba and i'm a personal trainer. i love being active. in total i've lost 200 pounds and went from a size 32 to a size 6. i have done it without any surgery, magic pills, shakes or voodoo. and that makes it much sweeter to me. >> so great. >> what a great story. >> no voodoo, as she says. >> a new orleans girl, right? >> like so many people, emotional eating was her biggest issue an

. >> yeah, henry has asperger's syndrome.ng at attention, because unfortunately adam lanza had asperger's and i heard from a lot of parents at the time that were very sensitive that that is not the cause of becoming violent. >> oh, i think the autism community was hurt by that because it is certainly one human being did not represent the entire community of autistic individuals. there was probably a lot going on there. you can have autism and you can have something else. you can have a psychiatric disorder. so we don't know enough about that case -- at it certainly was not welcomed by the community to have that be put out in the press the way it was -- >> stephanie: right. >> and such a difficult time for the country anyway, so -- >> stephanie: and you said one in 88 children in the u.s. have an autism spectrum disorder. obviously the vast, vast majority. and several senators made that case that they are more likely to hurt themselves than someone else. and i think people unfairly focused on that one aspect. >> oh, absolutely

pressure of the weighted blanket with the extra weight in it can sometimes help a person with a asperger's or autism to feel calm in a way that works for them. obviously it does not work for everybody. who knows exactly how it works. for some people this does work. particularly for autistic kids for whom this technique works, physical pressure, hugs and physical pressure can be part of the protocol for professionals who work with them. it's more than just a hug for a hug's sake with any kid. in some cases, it is a therapeutic measure for kids with autism. although we cannot know for sure, it seems like that context, understanding that about being an autistic kid may be a relevant detail for understanding this today on capitol hill. >> we're glad to be here today with real heroes. with family members, who have, in the middle of their grief, come down to washington d.c. to argue for change. a couple weeks ago, people were equally cynical about what connecticut could do. people said connecticut couldn't pass the strongest ban in the nation. it was the families of newtown who came to the state

we have the asperger's with are spending so much time on computers look for words for queues. 98 percent of human communication is nonverbal. whether the breathing in rhythm whether the pupils are guylating or contracting. all the stuff we have grown to respond mirror neuro in our brain and releasing dopamine when people are agreeing with you. how do you get that in -- you can't. what i'm trying to do in present schock is sort of give people clues and hints how to reconnect to some of these more fundamental rhythm. there when there's a break in continuity. it's an opportunity for the mice to play. there's an opportunity if we are liberated from the bunch clock. and we're moving to the other highly more fluid form of time then there's also an opportunity for us to reengage some of these more biological emotional, i would argue socially healthy relationships to the pass act of time. >> one more question. and open it up t the audience but just to conclude hearing you say that i have to observe that there are all of these people together lives in the room. you are looking at your phone, i ca

it is not i have asperger's or adhd. you may have a child with both. it is important to also diagnose the asperger's because they will do other things for that child in his environment, not just keep him as an adhd child, get him other social support and other skill support. so it is very important to accurately diagnose. that -- adhd really travels alone. we usually find adhd associated with other disorders, whether it is depression, anxiety, asper ger's, learning disabilities, ofessive -- upsets compulsive disorders. it is a neurologic disorder. we see a lot of these other neurological conditions in addition to adhd. that is important because once adhd is diagnosed, they will have other conditions that we need to address or just the opposite -- you might see this other condition and say oh, they have this, they don't have adhd. asperave down syndrome, ger's, autism, they don't have adhd. that is not necessarily correct. i think both of those are important. this gets back to diagnostic of humans and how good you are at diagnosing the condition. about

my lowest point came when my son, who has asperger's darted out, and i couldn't catch him.convention and listening to various motivational speakers. i did research and decided that the weight watchers core plan was a good fit for me. i did that for the majority of my weight loss. i didn't start working out right away. but eventually, i started walking and working out in a pool. i grew stronger as time went on. today, i teach fitness classes like zumba, and i'm a personal trainer. i love being active. in total, i've lost 200 pounds and went from a size 32 to a size 6. i have done it without any surgery, medic pills, shakes, and that makes it much sweeter to me. >> oh, so great. >> a great story. >> a new orleans girl, right? that's great. >> like so many people, emotional eating was her biggest issue. it wasn't until she started substituting the food for exercise in order to destress that the weight started to fall off. >> okay. >> i'm going to show you two really cool food strategies that she does. she's a new orleans gal. >> of course, she is. >> lee loves gumbo. >> what's

there was the initial diagnosis, and then the diagnosis of asperger's. >> and that goes to... social isolation, inability to communicate with others. but there's nothing, there's nothing that connects asperger's to the kind of violence we saw at... >> absolutely nothing by itself, absolutely nothing. >> family members have told us that when middle school came upon adam and the whole idea of changing classes and being in the hallways, that was too much for him. >> why? do we know why? >> the noise and the chaos disrupted him, is what we were told. >> so she moves him out of the public school system and into st. rose of lima? >> she didn't move him into parochial school right away. initially she had this special program set up for him. he was under the supervision of newtown schools, but he would do some of his work offsite and at home. and then he would later return to the school when the rest of the students weren't there. >> okay. and after st. rose of lima, though, back to newtown high school, which is a big school. so why if movement and, and people being around him are a problem