number four, refrain from belegerence. people make emotional decisions. being in touch with your feelings. being in touch with the other person's feelings, communicate consciously and recognize the value of empathy. number six, declare your values and try to understand other people's values. they are different than yours but they are not necessarily wrong. there is a history behind those values. the cultural history behind those values. number six, don't prove somebody wrong and make them lose face. they'll never forgive you. number five, seven, eight, whatever, learn to forgive and learn to ask for forgiveness. and finally, don't bring in ideology in religion. everybody thinks that their religion is the best. so that shouldn't be part of the conversation. number ten, the most important if you follow all these, find a way to partner economically. okay. if i sit down with somebody in gaza, and i sit down with somebody, a teenage center israel or anywhere and ask them, you know, our young adult, what do you want? they want to be safe. they want to go to sch