. >> ben jacob. >> the shift tab especially taxing on their sons. their oldest recently asked his mother a question. >> he wanted to know when we were going home. i said we're home, see there's the space needle, safeco field we're home. he inside, mom we've just been on vacation. we've been on vacation here in seattle too long. it made me feel like from the mouth of babe, maybe we should listen to him and go home. >> they decided to stick it out. they found a diverse school, 45 minutes away. it's a long drive but worth it, if it means their kids won't be the only black ones in their class. >> when you're the one of one as my wife put it, you're to play that role and you speak for all black people, so a black issue, so to speak black issue comes up, everyone's looking to hear what you have to say because now you're the spokesperson at seven for all black people in america and that's a lot for a child to bear. >> great job. >> the growing pains of unchartered territory as they create a new definition of community. tanya mosley, al jazeera seattle. >>

. >> reporte answers when she gets home benjamin and jacob want her undivided attention, too. >> sometimes say, benfrom work early? when are you coming home from work? that always pulls at me. >> reporter: the mommy guilt is triggered by missing school events not home in the afternoon and traveling for work. >> when i went away last week i reminded myself they're fine. i don't think that they attach as much emogs to me leaving as i attach to me leaving. >> repor how does she cope with the guilt? >> i think i overcompensate to be completely honest. trying to think about it. i think i try to leave those notes in benjamin's lunch box. just to give him a little reminders even when i'm not there. >> r angela artileino the founder of "parenting" magazine. >>t d you hear from mothers? >> they all suffer from it. it's a very normal thing for moms to feel guilty. >> reporte about what? >> everything. >> reporter: and not just working moms. stay at home moms worry they're not present enough or patient enough and social media -- >> don't compare yourself to moms on facebook. they're only putti up the good stu