tis >>> in october, 2004, beth lochtefeld went to new york to be with her boyfriend, tom toolan. by then, the two had been dating for six weeks but the relationship was fraying. beth was beginning to see a troubling side of this new guy and she had started to give him ultimatums. >> he would start drinking and he would get really ugly. she would say you're a good guy but when you're drinking, you're an idiot and you need to decide between alcohol and me. he would apologize and say i choose you and i want you. i don't want the alcohol. >> that week beth invited her brother to meet her boyfriend. perhaps she wanted his take on tom. first impression, you see him walk in. >> well, he had longish blond hair sort of combed back and a double breasted blue blazer on. very pompous. he seemed fake to me. >> that night over dinner, beth's brother kept asking tom toolan what he did for a living. >> and he couldn't really tell me to my satisfaction what he did. >> what was he saying? >> oh, i'm an investor. what do you invest in? he couldn't really give me an answer. >> beth's brother said too