let me let me start with the good news, which is that our bodies and our brains are incredibly biodynamic. so as stressed or as anxious as you may feel you can quickly revert as well. and the key is to develop, developing some strategies. one thing you know, it's interesting casey, i think that there's there's some evidence. if you talk to evolutionary biologists and stuff, that in some ways humans are sort of hardwired to be suspicious of one another. it's kind of how we survived in our in our earliest days that's what the argument often is. and there's this guy, peter coleman. he's a he's a psychologist and he runs this thing at the at columbia university known as the difficult conversations lab, which i just found. so fascinating that a lab like that, even exists. but i had a chance, as you mentioned, to talk to peter for the chasing life podcast. just i want you to listen to this, and i want to explain it afterward you know, there's some neuroscience research that just looks at, you know, when you see a tweet from somebody on the other side that says something you think is inane and y