boldwood is the social norm. that's what people expect from her.she was going to be -- to do the right thing, she would marry him. he has money and stability. oat's love and companionship and friendship, a man with integrity and honesty and then sergeant troy is the dastardly soldier. he's probably the bad boy. charlie: is that the one that she likes because he is a bad boy? carey: she is unconventional and he speaks in an unconventional way. when she meets gabriel oak, he is incredibly inarticulate and bumbling. his proposal is a disaster. that's not very appealing to her. she wants someone to grab her and he doesn't. when she meets troy, he says these things you don't say. like you are the most beautiful woman i have seen. and meet me in this forest. charlie: you did not have men say that to you? carey: yes and i fell for it. that was real. that's the problem. that's why she is an authentic character because she makes all the ridiculous mistakes we make. charlie: this is another scene when michael sheen, lord baldwood, is trying to convince her t