>> this guy was my fantastic, magnet, bossy, difficult, older brother carl. he was the red state to my blue state. all you have to understand to know about how complicated and difficult this relationship was my first memory of my brother was with when he sail me out a window when i was 2 years old and in the san antonio emergency room with a cut on my eye brow. he gave me the gift of a hard head. he went from there to being the youngest member of the john berk society and coming into my room to smash my joan biaz records because she was on the list. he was complicated, but saying all of that he was mysterious. he grew up to be a trial lawyer turned apple orchardist. part of the madening sibling thing was understanding the control freak nature that my brother had. for example, every year he would send me a box of fruit. the fruit he grew in his gorgeous orchards in washington state. the fruit came with the carl tax where you would get 25 telephone calls before the fruit came, such as, fruit is coming next week, are you going to be home? this is said in a texas

. >> what do you bossi in the immediate or near future for autistic children when they reach the age of 21? >> that is a very good question. a fear i and a lot of my parents have when a child with partisan turns 21 it is almost like they are off the radar screen because they're not in school anymore. they have to leave high school and it is really answer. there's a belief i don't hold to that there are certainly more autistic children today than there were ten or 20 years ago. we can look at autistic adults today. there are autistic adults who are 80 years old do day and we can look at people who are older for a model of what things were like without services. what things were like in a society that didn't know as much about him. so i am very optimistic that we are in a better place now. i don't think that we should assume that there's some kind of huge wave of children with autism and special needs that are coming into adulthood that we have never been able to deal with before and never had to confront. there are people who are adults now that we had to take care of and had to help

and people don't get back to you in the morning that eliminates a little bit of diminishes your bossinessbossness, the second thing is i think it's actually a lesson for the white house for as i said the debt ceiling down the road. and that one, the white house, the administration is going to have to be involved as early as possible to figure out what it is going to take to get the deal. because it is not going to be an up or down boat on raise the ceiling, don't raise the ceiling. >> same issues are going to be raised. >> some of the same issues. we're going to hear a lot, my favorite phrase, actually, budget process. we'll hear a lot about budget process and hard caps and things like that but it is going to take something like that to cobble together the votes. and on that one the brinksmanship actually has consequences. >> to get there you have to build up months and years of personal relationships. these things don't happen when you have personal relationships. and-- . >> lehrer: like what is happens right now. >> i don't think they do because they say okay, listen, we're friends. let

her new book "bossy pants" is a series of auto biographical essays.nts. >> i asked my husband to ask for words associated with me. he said, bossy, grouchy, sour. >> i thought it was all professional. i thought because you weare the boss at "30 rock." >> i am the boss. >> what's your managerial style? >> delegate and hide. i think i'm a good boss. mostly being a boss is getting good people and letting them do their thing and not micro managing too much. >> when it comes to that moment of make or break, are you the my way or the highway boss? >> it's my way until payday. i don't mind making decisions. i talk about this in the books. when "30 rock" first started people would come from access hollywood and be like, is it so weird for you to be the boss? no. it's not a question men are asked. are you so uncomfortable being the boss? >> it's a little bit of a double standard. >> by the way, congratulations. >> speaking of double standard. thank you. >> with your second child. >> thank you. >> by the way, you wrote this book before you knew you were pregnant