it gets to what we are are all concerned about is obviously there's cases of sexual assault, bubut ratebut reid is a one-wayt it's in a world that we are all the same in other words. to your point about saudi arab arabia, that is an example people get concerned about going back to the 1950s where we have these super gender roles and women are excluded in all these places. we have to understand of the things about us that are the same which is our intelligence and ability to make public a choice of to contribute to the society and participate. we may do that in different ways but at the end of the day there's a certain baseline right has to be in place an order for us to equally contribute in those ways. so that is recognizing what is the same about us which there is a category of things that are the true same about us. but i would say that there is a much broader section of qualities about us that are quite different and requires the society to recognize that in order for men to not be able to oppress women. >> i want to make one other point about your question on socialization and gender becau