be the first buckley carlson ever to graduate from high school. [laughter] and i said, what did you do? are you going to graduate? tense moment in the karl son -- carlson household. he says, no, i'm going to graduate, but i'm in trouble. he said i left a cup of dip spit on my desk. and i said, well whose dip spit was snit and he said, it was mine. and i said you dip? and he said, yes, i do. and my first thought was, you know, first of all just to be totally clear, i never blame myself for my kids' failings ever. >> of course not. [laughter] >> and i really don't. their failings from a young age i hold them responsible as adults even when they're like, 5. and i'm not exaggerating. my wife will say what are we doing? we do nothing wrong. [laughter] we're excellent parents, and we give them every advantage and their failures are their failures. and i mean that with total sincerity. this is the first time in almost 21 years of being a parent where i had a little voice inside that said, it's your fault. you did this. but i had to be sure. there are a t