catholics support it, but it's the fact that certain legislatures do not want to risk the ire of cardinal georgia and other leading. why should they have that aggregations of they don't vote against the bottle it up in the committee. but even if it were acceptable the problem now is is a second-class status in this house we had a thing called transracial union ande said you can have that you just can't have marriage you can see what would be wrong with that and i think the same thing is wrong here. >> thank you very much for coming and speaking to us. it's been a pleasure to listen to you, and about thank you for writing this book. it reminds me of a book from about ten years ago which was a popular book by michael warner, the trouble with normal and he is coming out of the theory and i'd like you to go into the issue of that you said you treated the end of the book about the public private question because his whole issue in that book, maybe not his whole issue but a big part of the book is that marriage is about putting a veil over sex, but americans just can't deal with it and we are ashamed i