. >> that's the same advice carol weston gives in her book, "for teens only." rol says she often hears teens say "no one likes me. >> i would say there's such a difference between "no one likes me" and "i want to be popular." i mean, "i want to be popular," a lot of people feel that and then it's almost like they grow out of it and then they realize that it's more valuable to have a couple of friends than to be one of the, you know, popular kids. >> reporter: here's more advice in dealing with cliques, and some of it come from teens like you. don't be one of the herd. >> find people who you are more compatible with instead of just trying to get into a specific group. >> reporter: choose your friends based on who they are, not the group they belong too. >> just ignore the actual cliques and try to get to know people as individuals. >> reporter: value your individuality. your own self-esteem is often the best protection against cliques. >> if the cliques that you don't hang out with like bother you, just ignore them. >> reporter: finally, be yourself. if they don'