. >> relationships with actress cressida bonas, and his first love chelsy davy. >> chelsy had experienced the most horrible treatment, photographers waiting for her, call out names, bitch, whore, trying to get a reaction and i guess she looked at all this and said, do i want this for my life? >> i met her just before harry met meghan, and we talked about the private life at the time. >> and harry tells her about a quote massive paranoia, he feels, in finding a girlfriend. >> i think harry's great fear was that unless he had enough time to get to know someone, if that relationship prematurely became public, they would be absolutely swamped with media interest and that would change the dynamic of the relationship. >> and what happens to his mother is never far from his mind. >> harry and his brother still feel that, the press intrusion was partly responsible for his mother's death and thought why would anyone want to put up with this for me? >> harry wants to keep his relationship with meghan private as long as he can. but just four months after that first date, the news is out. and the pap