cheryl sanburg says she hates that moment it sends a chill down her spine. the reality she doesn't know that person we're not going to have that relationship what say way to come out and find tat person, mentor, advocate that sponsor rather than trying to be one of 100 people getting the person on the stage. >> i think it's very important for you to have a relationship with your mentor and sponsor. they have to know you, you have to know them. you need to respect and seek out people you respect their tnz and think you can learn and grow from. i have many mentors inside and outside of organization. some are colleagues some bosses some are people i work with. some are vendors and i think it's a natural relationship that we built and i make it a point to spend time with them and schedule you know regular, monthly, coffee conversations where we can discuss some issues i'm facing and then give me their advice. i never approached someone i didn't have a relationship with and i think it's important to really seek out those folks you have a relationship with. >> it