sandberg in san francisco this week. we discussed the challenges of balancing life. cherylichard and i have talked what he will say is, this is good for my company. we don't have enough diversity in facebook or any company, the reason we want diversity is because we will build a better product. we went organizations to take diversity seriously. when they realize not taking diversity seriously is harming performance. emily: what is the conversation you want people to focus on now? >> it is about culture, we will not get to equality until we change the stereotypes. we believe women should be nurturers, that means we do not fully engage men on the phone or women in the workplace. that is hurting us. we note that any income level, children with active fathers do better. they're healthier, happier. that means there is a real cost to what men not having opportunities to be as active parents as women. emily: when i was present -- pregnant with my first child, i read an article to tell me a cannot have it all, i cried. i cried for a couple of weeks. i reached out to you and you sai