, their ideal child, the child that they wanted to parent. we all spend our lives wishing and waiting for that ideal child to grow up and be the person that we wanted him to be. >> the child who... >> plays soccer, learns from mistakes, gets along with other people. and what happens then is, when parents don't get that ideal child, all right? they keep acting, they keep parenting that child as if it was the ideal child, hoping it will become the ideal child, and they don't develop the skills they need to deal with the child that they actually have. >> in other words, they're trying to raise the ideal child, and their child just isn't that. he's the child who bangs the door, he's the child who won't listen, he's the child who's always defiant. >> that's exactly right. you know, they'll see these really out-of-control behaviors, and parents are like deer in a headlight. they don't know what to do, so they'll start screaming and yelling, or they'll start giving in, or they'll start bribing. parents give in because it's so tiring, and it's so ann

about a child's name?> not on those grounds. this judge is clearly -- >> on some grounds? >> on some grounds, if it's the right grounds. if it -- i believe that this judge made a huge mistake and will be overturned because the judge is basing her religious belief, only one person earned that title. whether you agree with that or not, the basis is whether it infringes on other people to have a child named that way and there are a lot of cases that show if a child is named, forever, rejoice and christ the king is the last name, then every time called out in class it would be christ rejoice the king and could be offensive to kids in the class not of that religion or don't have the same beliefs. >> interesting. >> yeah. so the basis is more does it infringe on other people's rights than mine as a judge's opinion. >> but interesting choice of words. you said for the right reasons. this judge is going to argue for the right reasons i am changing this child's name, tanya. >> that's absolutely ridiculous. it is la

then the last thing that the child undergoes would be a brain mri scan. here we are looking specifically at the hypothalamus and the pituitary to make sure that there's no structural abnormality. >> mcfarland: joshua kellogg underwent a bone age x-ray that revealed his bones were in puberty. >> now, we're taking he's age 10 at this point. his bone growth was already showing that he was 15 years old. and that, you know, was the concern, was that his body was already five years head of his mind side. >> ready? >> i shuffled them. >> mcfarland: for talia, her bone age revealed that she was growing way too fast. >> and what we learned was, as children go, they get bones in their hands or they get certain... >> we have seven bones, right, and they all grow together as you get older. and her bones had shown that she was 4.2 years-- this was, like, between 4.2 and, you know, 4.6. so there was, you know, a variance between there. but as we looked at the pictures of her hands, you could actually see the bones coming together. and as soon as dr. kletter saw that, h

just send in pictures of your child. to start, you know, getting them noticed and then they can start going out for auditions. >> if you find out what's casting out there through call sheet or backstage or play bill, then you know -- you can read the descriptions of what we're looking for. if your child seems right, submit them. >> we hear about the backstage mothers and fathers. have you all experienced that in your careers? >> i casted the "annie" tour for many, many years. >> besides me. >> for many, many years. they didn't know it, but i was always the one in the holding room measuring every child. we needed to know how tall they were. i was really sent out there to watch the parents and see if there were any red flags about personalities or kids who didn't want to be there, that their parents wanted them to be there to fulfill their dream. >> the parent may be the problem, not the kid. >> sometimes we really are looking for kids who really want to do this. and whose parents are going to be helping them and not hinde

, their ideal child, the child that they wanted to parent.g and waiting for that ideal child to grow up and be the person that we wanted him to be. >> the child who... >> plays soccer, learns from mistakes, gets along with other people. and what happens then is, when parents don't get that ideal child, all right? they keep acting, they keep parenting that child as if it was the ideal child, hoping it will become the ideal child, and they don't develop the skills they need to deal with the child that they actually have. >> in other words, they're trying to raise the ideal child, and their child just isn't that. he's the child who bangs the door, he's the child who won't listen, he's the child who's always defiant. >> that's exactly right. you know, they'll see these really out-of-control behaviors, and parents are like deer in a headlight. they don't know what to do, so they'll start screaming and yelling, or they'll start giving in, or they'll start bribing. parents give in because it's so tiring, and it's so annoying, and it's so frustrating

they are a small child.e hope ethan is there with hanna and will be returned but we don't know at this time. >> do you know anything about james dimaggio's connection to the family? >> we talked to brett anderson, the father of the girl and ex-husband of christina and this is a life-long friend of theirs. they know him very well. if you saw brett's appeal last night he said jim, you've taken away so much already. just please, bring my daughter back to me. so that's -- that's our plea, also. let's not make this any worse than it already is and we're asking everybody out there to keep their eyes open and maybe bring this little girl back to her father. >> i mean, i read that a family friend said that dimaggio had feelings or crush on the 16-year-old daughter, hanna. do you have information about that? >> we're talking to all her classmates and we're developing certain stories. we just don't know. there is just a lot of speculation right now. we don't want to go too far out on a limb one direction or the other.

get some help for your child because a mother who herself is damaged and injured cannot help her child. very good. and, dr. clark, you were talking about different types of scenarios in terms of how parents need to cope with different types of trauma that their children may have experienced. what other types of actions should parents be taking in a different scenario? well the most important thing, as dr. harris pointed out, you listen but you should also believe your child unless the evidence is overwhelmingly to the contrary, which means, as dr. harris points out, you are taking it outside to explore, to get vindication. so, if it's bullying you are talking to the school. you're talking to the teacher. if it's sexual assault, you're bringing in the appropriate authorities to address that. if it's a family member, you are not keeping it a secret because you're afraid of embarrassing the family. the issue is that the child will suffer long-term consequences, and you too will suffer consequences because you are either, you're a victim yourself based on the past or you're sitting there h

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to make sure that you have available child care, that you can afford it. if you don't and if you can't create some co-op or have a family member move in, you shouldn't be having them. >> going to end up 55 trying to get back in the workforce and not being able to. >> that's not -- >> that's not a viable answer. >> that's not a viable answer for our society as a whole. we can't say, let's let children -- we need to take care of kids. >> no. >> excuse me, please. first of all, there are many reasons why you are dead wrong, i'm sorry. the first is, you marry a guy or be with a guy or partner that will do half the work. that gets rid of a large amount of need for the daycare. go ahead. >> my point, bonnie, is that you -- might want to have that discussion may have some points but that's not the reality of our society. women are having children, we need to have children to sustain our economic growth. [ all talking at once ] >> but the policies we have in place in order to really useful potential our workforce. and what we have is a pool of older women incredib

, their ideal child, the child that they wanted to parent. we all spend our lives wishing and waiting for that ideal child to grow up and be the person that we wanted him to be. >> the child who... >> plays soccer, learns from mistakes, gets along with other people. and what happens then is, when parents don't get that ideal child, all right? they keep acting, they keep parenting that child as if it was the ideal child, hoping it will become the ideal child, and they don't develop the skills they need to deal with the child that they actually have. >> in other words, they're trying to raise the ideal child, and their child just isn't that. he's the child who bangs the door, he's the child who won't listen, he's the child who's always defiant. >> that's exactly right. you know, they'll see these really out-of-control behaviors, and parents are like deer in a headlight. they don't know what to do, so they'll start screaming and yelling, or they'll start giving in, or they'll start bribing. parents give in because it's so tiring, and it's so ann

the child shouldenefit. child care, nannies, cars, clothing. this child will not want for anything.sts, college funds. gerri: what about her? >> she doesn't work. >> the point is, first of all, even though there is no fault divorce in new york, our conduct may obviously play into this. but from the standpoint that don't see why we a prejudging him and all of this negativism other than getting involved. she may embrace. he may when we take care of this child. gerri: well -- >> she has that - he has not denied. they used to travel together. come on. he honestly and the really bad plan and poor judgment when he did this. you can't really -- i mean, you can't support this guy for doing that. >> i'm not saying that. but i think there is prejudging going on. the divce settlement less than she would -- less than the divorce settlement that would have been issued yet have the divorce and the child. you're the one that wrong your husband because you're right. new york is no fault. he didn't go with no fault. even with adultery. this is the fault divorce. unusual estranged. gerri: we do it a

you went to the child welfare system. >> what we are learning now.tistics are any given day, 300,000 kids are at risk of becoming victims of child sex trafficking now. the child welfare system. kids who are already from, abused, neglected homes. kids who have been taken by cps out of the home. put into coster care. put into groups homes with no foster care placement. child has become a staging area for children to be sucked into being traffics. >> are there people on the inside of the system helping to facilitate it? >> what happens what we are finding a lot. we need to do more data selection. and it had a big conference today. head of san francisco agencies, federal agencies. helping human services. running. president obama has an anti-trafficking initiative heave is pushing nationwide. the kids who were already vulnerable are targeted by pimps. these are kids who may not have enough to eat. they didn't have a stable environment. shear promi they're promised stability and love they can't get. get lured on to the street. so-called boyfriend. and get

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now that to me is not treating a child as a child.hat is treating a child is a premature adult and in my view if the adult world treats children as premature adult that is an abandonment of children. it's an abandonment of the idea of what being an adult and their relationship to a child is. it's an abandonment of the idea of proper parenting which is all about being responsible for that child in that child's welfare and guiding that child until the child is old to make these decisions about sex and about drugs and to know what's going on in the world and make sense of it by him or herself. isn't that what being a parent or a teacher is all about? i think britain and america to a greater or lesser extent has abdicated that responsibility and the consequences that we have several generations have gone past as well to this process. we have generations of children who have been abandoned and the result of that is that they have grown up into adults who don't know how to be an adult. they don't know how to -- because they have never been

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that child didn't get better, the child died. here's what's really disturbing, it is not the first child who has died this way under their care. now they're charged with murder. our legal experts will weigh in on this heart breaking case after the break. ♪ you're not made of money, so don't overpay for boat insurance. geico, see how much you could save. saving time by booking an appointment online, even smarter. online scheduling. available now at meineke.com. >>> instead of rushing their sick baby to a hospital, a philadelphia couple instead decided that prayer might work better. but after several days prayer didn't work at all and that child died. and now a judge is upholding murder charges against the parents involved. our national correspondent gary tuchman has the details. >> reporter: at this north philadelphia cemetery, most of the graves are marked, but not this spot where two small children are buried. two children who would be alive today, say authorities, if their parents gave them medical care. herbert and katherine a

-- available to their child.re are things we don't know about what the parents knew. the gun belonged to the caregiver, the 87-year-old. did the parents know she had a gun, a loaded gun? was it easily accessible to the child? putting the child in harm's way with that caregiver could theoretically create liability. it's a real tough case. i don't think you'll see an arrest made. >> if i'm a parent in this community, i'm thinking my children are going back to school. is this child, tara, allowed to go back to the same public school with all the same kids and live in the same community without any intervention from the state in any way? >> ashleigh, there could be some intervention in that respect by the school system. there are reasons juveniles are treated different from adults. they don't have the same judgment, they lack the impulse control that adults have. they don't understand the consequences of their actions. that's why the law doesn't punish or criminalize their behavior at such a young age. >> that's fine

if you're going to name your child messiah or a worse name, a more challenging name, the child live withesthey think it's cute and fun. your kid has to go every day with that and get beaten up or ostracized from society. that's wrong. >> stephanie, dean makes a point. but dean, messiah is number four among fastest growing baby names in this country. so there are lots of messiahs running around. forget the judge's rationale, is that child abuse? >> a worm hole has opened in the universe again in that i agree with michael medved. the judge is clearly overreaching here. there is no law against being an idiotic parent, erin. do they think this is going to cause some second coming panics in the state? i'm not sure. i think it is overreaching. i think that we're a country that has a ban on certain baby names. if we're going to start, let's start with caleb because that name is so pretentious. >> what about, are there any names that would be appropriate to ban? there was, and by the way, this guy, talk about overcoming any kind of child abuse, dick butkus overcame his name. north west was allowed

no doubt that raising a child is expensive. but did you ever try to figure out exactly how much it costs? well, the government did. according to a report today from the agriculture department, no less, raising a little sprout born last year to the age of 18 will cost more than $241,000. that is up about $6, 100 from the year before. elaine quijano takes a look for us at where all this money is going. >> whoa! >> reporter: music producer david bruner stopped working when his daughter mae was born. child care cost too much, even though his wife earns a six- figure salary as an attorney in new york city. >> it's expensive from the moment you find out you're pregnant until -- until the end of it. >> reporter: when adjusted for inflation, the cost of raising a child born in 2012 is 23% higher than for a child born in 1960. the fastest-rising costs are child care and education, health care, and clothing. all up 3.6% or more compared to the year before. the report does not include the cost of college or take into account the income lo

think -- >> in other words the child is lashing out. >> the child lashes out at the parent for no reason or isolated -- slates itself. there are just some parties, you know some of them going on and talking is not enough. we need to think of technology cyber bullying because that's made its worse hasn't it. >> it's also you see i was having lunch here in san francisco yesterday and everyone in the restaurant was texting, nobody was talking to each other. so if we do this as adults, come on, what are we teaching them. >> what are the signs that your child is a bully. >> the first thing is lashing out. lash out and hope -- >> the same as the person who was being bullied. the person who is bullying is doing some of that same behavior at home. >> a bully -- i do not believe that bully is truly a popular child in school. it is only popular at the moment that it has the momentum, you know, with those little balls. >> oh, yes. >> think of newton's cradle, you hit the first prealternative strike, right, the whole group reacts since school and that's what's funny, you continue because there's mom

if you're going to name your child messiah or a worse name, a more challenging name, the child live witheshey think it's cute and fun. your kid has to go every day with that and get beaten up or ostracized from society. that's wrong. >> stephanie, dean makes a point. but dean, messiah is number four among fastest growing baby names in this country. so there are lots of messiahs running around. so, you know, when a judge -- forget the judge's rationale. even deecan's rationale, does i add up that the name would be some insipient child abuse? >> well, a worm hole has opened in the universe yet again in that i agree with michael. >> i was -- >> the judge -- the judge is clearly overreaching here. you know, sadly there is no law against being an idiotic parent, erin. and you know, i don't know -- did they think that would come some second coming panic in the state? i'm not really sure. but i think that it is overreaching. you know, i think that we're a country that has a ban on certain baby names. and listen, if we're going to start, let's start with caleb. that is so pretentious. >> i'm sure

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what is a child?e have laws across this country when a cake commits a crime -- child commits a crime they go to court. what is the child? guest: 17 and below. states differ. for the federal offense, under 18 years of age. host: you brought up the idea of recruitment. what if there is a 17 year old that is helping to recruit younger girls into a gang or ring? how do you draw the line? isst: if the 17 are old creating more prostitutes, the underlying issue is she is a victim. we need a victim centered approach. each state and local agency will it differently. from a federal perspective, we look at it from a victim and do interviews. it will determine exactly what her ownership is in the enterprise. it is not unlikely. we see it where the girls, under fear and coercion of the pimps, will go out and recruit other girls or they will be beat. . that is why it is important to take a step back and treat them as a victim as opposed to suspects. host: you brought up the idea of the of the gangs in washington, d

it's very expensive to be under no child left behind and no child left behind considered pretty much every school receiving money for kids, as failing, because 100% of them weren't proficient in english and math. >>ed upper this new evaluation system who polices these school districts that are supposed to have the new systems and supposed to be working better than no child left behind? >> basically they say we all will. >> police themselves? >> they're going to police each other and themselves, have an oversight panel or glup will help group that will look at how the districts are doing and if a school is failing it will get a mentor school assigned to it to work with them and help them implement new policies. so they will be looking at what the evaluations are showing. it isn't as if they're going have an evalue, adoesn't look good. off you go. they will be actually sort of policing how everybody's doing, because if it doesn't work and you don't see improvement and there are complaints it will fail for everyone then, and they'll be back in no tinchts what's likely to happen after th

and the maternal child health folks recognized that and are working to make pitchers available in child care center, very easy fix. what they also noted was that in african-american children, there was something about having a pitcher of water that really helped decrease the risk in half for cavities as well. it wasn't as notable in the other populations. they don't completely have an answer as to why. it may be that in communities like the bayview where there is one dental clinic for 33,000 people, there is limited access to preventive dental care. but again, i don't know that's the answer, but that may be one of the reasons. so, i just want to talk a little bit about some requirements that we are now working on and by "we" it really is many of our colleagues working on this. at the federal level, they passed a law saying that those participating in school lunch shall have water readily accessible. and then in california, our legislature required school districts to provide free fresh drinking water during meal times in the school. again, a very -- it's a great, a great law and i know

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she moved to the city to treat her child, but it's not easy. she spended $25 a day. her husband is one of the millions who lives on less than a dollar a day. >> translator: this is my first child, and it breaks my heart to see him sick. i need to know how to treat my child. at the same time, we don't have money to buy medicine. i borrow money to look after my child. >> reporter: once released from hospital, the children need to be monitored for at least two months. one of the biggest obstacles that health officials face here is that most of the malnourisheded children need prolonged treatment, but their families live in rural areas far from the capital and cannot afford to come back for a follow-up, which means that child will not recover fully. there's also another problem. a lack of access to drinking water also leads to the outbreak of diseases that cause malnutrition. >> yemen as a society has not in the past dealt with malnutrition in the way that it needs to be treated. malnutrition in yemen is caused by economic problems and poverty and also a lack of access t