his administrative assistant of the past two years, cindy musante, helped him take care of the funeralhter, samantha, who was 16 at the time, remembers it well. >> that morning of the service, i actually went over early and was helping her with the last-minute details. >> reporter: the church was packed as people rose to eulogize the beloved betty, but nothing was heard that day from the pastor a.b. schirmer. he sat in the pews and listened. he'd presided over so many funerals but told friends that this was one he couldn't bear to speak at. in the receiving line the preacher stood next to his stepson nate as the funeral goers each paused briefly to offer their condolences. one of them was cindy. >> he said, "nate, i'd like to introduce you to my church secretary. this is cindy." and he said to me, "we have a little inside joke between us at the church here." and he said, "i go by a.b., and she is known as c.d." and then he said, "a, b, c, d." and they kind of chuckled together about it. >> reporter: did you think that was kind of a cozy, jokey thing? >> i just thought that was kind of