curtis avery becomes the head of the alice brown trust and he advocated for the family life approach. the family life approach is you focus on relationships, how to go on a date, how to introduce your parents to the person you are dating, avoiding too much sexual contact in the early years of a relationship. getting engaged. this book, it is so specific. it talks about the dates you should go one, buying gifts, what is it mean when you get offended when you get engaged how to announce it. it is about a series of middle-class expectations for how you are supposed to conduct yourself at various stages of your life. what are the different ways we see today where you learn this type of training? where'd you learn this type of stuff? had you know how to bring gifts to your boyfriend or girlfriend? how do you know about getting engaged? you did not learn in this class. >> television. >> what this television teach you? >> the bachelor has taught me to date 25 grows at the same time. [laughter] >> did you watch it before we showed it in this class question mark >>? >> you are in a serious rel