and eventually daimler chrysler was waiting to sponsor my work visa because the supply of the visa less than the demand so i was stuck in for five years with zero progress. so eventually i got married. at the end of the process i got married so that's how i became u.s. citizen through marriage. >> host: do you think if you hadn't gotten married you'd still be in the system. >> guest: probably not because by the end of the five year waiting run out of options and you talk about a hurdle. that's another hurdle. when you do not how long you can legally stay, cannot buy a house, i cannot easily change jobs bus the next employer has to be able to ready to assume all the legal costs and risks to help continue the process and not many police employers wastio that. i'm at the thorns rope back then and have to leave. >> host: so you right about rite about this in your book, the broke welcome mat, is the burden on employers or schools to say, yes, we want her to stay, and then they have to prove that you need to stay? >> guest: the burden is really mostly heavily on the applicant. so, this is ano