so i am back now with danny cevallos, philip cook, and also dr. judely ho. about, remember, we were all analyzing that video with jay-z and solange, his sister-in-law. and everyone praised him for doing the right thing. he held her back and the security guard came and got her. he never hit her. so why would you praise jay-z, and he is getting -- ray rice -- and saying ray rice did the wrong thing? i'm going to ask dr. ho. dr. ho. >> so why would we be praising jay-z instead? >> yes, if he didn't defend himself. >> right. and he is holding back. and that's kind of what our culture expects men to do when women aggress on them. and your question before the break, don, was a good one. it is ever okay? and i think that most people would say that there was some justification that the man was actually afraid that he was going to really seriously get hurt, and he was acting in self-defense. it doesn't matter who aggressed, whether it's a man or a woman, you defend yourself. unfortunately, like philip talked about earlier in the segment, we do have some problems with