. >> dar was not a domesticated person either. >> the foleys were married in 1994, and right from the start, dar took the lead. fair to say she wore the pants in that house? >> i'd say probably 75%, 80% of the time she did. >> she was the breadwinner? >> yes. >> you stayed home and took care of your son? >> i did. >> heath was tom and dar's only child and the center of their lives. >> and we just loved being together. we were always together. >> and so the three foleys lived on the outskirts of coldwater in an old farmhouse they called the heath bar farm. a picture perfect family until that winter day back in 2009. what was the last thing you said to her? >> i said, i love you, and i'll see you later. >> on that day, the foleys were preparing to celebrate heath's tenth birthday at a friend's house just down the road. dar still needed to shower, so tom, heath and a friend of heath's left without her. the plan was for dar to follow in her own car and meet them all at the party later that afternoon. but dar never arrived. that gave you some sort of sixth sense that something was wrong. >