the moment sheryl sandberg found her husband, dave goldberg, in a pool of blood while on vacation in co. >> at first we thought dave had died by falling off an exercise machine. my brother's a neurosurgeon, he kept telling me, that is not true, that is not what happened, something happened to make him fall in the first place. >> reporter: he's suffered a cardiac arrythmia and the facebook c.o.o., the women who always seemed so sure of herself, felt utterly lost. suddenly a widow, she had to fly home to break the tragic news to their children. >> sitting down with my 7-year-old daughter and 10-year-old son and telling them, you're never going to see your father again -- is something i could not even imagine. from the very beginning i tried to tell my kids to respect their feelings. it's okay if you cry. it's okay did you feel sad or jealous of other children who have fathers. it's also okay to laugh and be happy because daddy would want that for you. >> reporter: their daddy was the widely beloved ceo of survey monkey. 47-year-old goldberg and she were silicon valley's ultimate power c

cheryl sandberg is candid about her heartbreak and isolation after the sudden death of her husband, dave goldberg. it's that candor you'll find in her new book, "option b." >> acknowledge other people's pain. don't not say anything. you can't remind someone about it. you can't remind me dave died, i know that. she was upset about his absence from her child activity and told her option a was not available, she had to make the most of option b. >> so often we don't know what to say or do. >> reporter: she told me option b is a guidebook not just for the person dealing with the tragedy but everyone rallying around that person. >> resilience is not something we have faked amount of. it's a muscle and we build it and we can build it by helping each other recover and helping each other find joy. >> reporter: the best way to help, don't ask, just do. any act of kindness no matter how small. meanwhile, sandberg hopes the book will help inspire option b support groups on facebook and option b.org. >> if you do that i think it honors him. >> reporter: she said the loss makes her feel more grateful. >> i wi

in it, sandberg shares how she coped after her husband dave goldberg died in an accident in mexico two years ago. >> everyone faces some form of option b. option b is about how we build resilience. it's not something we have a set amount but something we build. >> the book title came about after a conversation sandberg had with a friend. >> my friend phil when i lost dave, we were talking about an activity that dave wasn't there to take my son to, and we came up with another option, someone else to cover. and i looked at him and said, but i want dave. he said, well, option a isn't available. so we're going to kick the out of option b. >> sandberg, a single mother of two, says with this tragedy also comes greater appreciation for the good that's left. >> until dave died, it never occurred to me that dave could die, which means it never occurred to me i could die or my kids could die. i appreciation every year in a way i couldn't before. i would love to go back and share that with dave, celebrate the last birthday we had with him in a way i really would now had i known, but i can still c

resilience, and finding joy," sandberg describes the sudden death of her 47-year-old husband, dave goldberg two years ago. in an interview to be broadcast on tomorrow's "newshour," sandberg tells judy woodruff how she's recovered. >> the book is trying to help other people hear what i couldn't hear at the beginning. when dave first died, i felt like i was in a void. it does get better. i will always miss dave. i miss dave every day. but that feeling of not being able to breathe has passed. i can breathe now! and sometimes i think of him and cry, but sometimes i think of him and smile. and my children can think of their father and smile. and i want other people going through this to know it's possible. >> this is pbs newshour weekend, sunday. >> sreenivasan: the u.s. navy says a strike group en route to the korean peninsula held routine joint military exercises today with two japanese destroyers in the philippine sea. the u.s. ships could arrive in korean waters within days, vice president mike pence said yesterday in australia. this is the strike group president trump has called an" armada,

. ♪ because i knew you because i knew you ♪ ♪ i have been changed for good >> i was changed by dave goldbergoy of being his wife. by the unbelievable opportunity to have children with him and watch him parent, parent with him for 10 years. and i was changed by his death. i'm sadder than i was before. i still have this huge reservoir of sadness and i still businemi so much. i'm also closer with my friends and family and people like mark than i eve but i can appreciate every moment i have with my children. and maybe through this book i can help other people appreciate that they have those moments now too. >>> up next, this isn't your mom's morning show. why charlemagne the god is speaking truth to breakfast. >>> later, the magic of willy wonka. it's made it to broadway and we have your golden ticket to "charlie and the chocolate factory." opioid-induced constipation. had a bad back injury, my doctor prescribed opioids which helped with the chronic pain, but backed me up big-time. tried prunes, laxatives, still constipated... had to talk to my doctor. she said, "how long you been holding this i

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cheryl sandberg is candid about her heartbreak and isolation after the sudden death of her husband, dave goldberg. it's that candor you'll find in that book, option b. >> acknowledge other people's pain. don't not say anything. you can't remind someone they're going through something. you can't remind me dave died, i know that. >> reporter: the title when sandberg was upset about his absence is in father-child activity and option a was not available, she'd have to make the most of option b. >> so often we don't know what to say or do. >> reporter: sandberg said option b is a guidebook not just for the person dealing with the tragedy but those rallying around that person. >> resilience is not something we have a fixed amount of, it's a muscle and we build it and we can build it by helping each other recover and find joy. >> reporter: the best way to help, don't ask, just do. any act of kindness no matter how small. meanwhile, sandberg hopes it will be a support through facebook. she says h los has made her more grateful. >> i will never make another joke about growing old again because it is a gif

in it she shared how she coped after her husband dave goldberg dialed in an accident in mexico two years ago. >> everyone faces some form of "option b." and it's about how we build resilience. it's nothing it's not something that we have a set amount but something we built. >> the title came out after a conversation sandberg had with a friend. >> we were talking about an activity that dave wasn't able to take my son to and we looked for another option and she said option "a" isn't available so we'll keep the bleep out of option "b." >> until dave day it never occurred to me that dave could die which never occurred to me that i could die or my kids could diet. i appreciate every year in a way i didn't about. i would love to go back and share that with dave, celebrate the last birthday we had with him if i had known but i can celebrate each of my kids' birthdays like that now. >> sandberg one of the successful bay area women we've featured on "bay area revelation. heart untold stories about their personal journeys. "women game changers" is airing saturday may 13th at 10:00 p.m. >>> coming

then in may 2015 her husband dave goldberg died tragically after sustaining a head injury when he fellre joy again but her friend adam grant, a psychologist at the university of pennsylvania told her about concrete steps people can take to help them recover from life—shattering experiences. together they have written a book, ‘option b: facing adversity, building resilience, and findingjoy‘. emily spoke to sheryl sandberg. my biggest fear was that my kids would never be happy again, that all of their happiness would have been wiped away in that instant. and so i turned to my friend adam gray who is a psychologist, and asked him what i could do. how do i get my kids through this, how do i get myself through this? and i learned that resilience is not something we have a set amount of. it's a muscle. we build it, we build it in ourselves, in each other. in our children. and option b is our attempt to share what we learned. from the researchers who have studied this for a really long time, from other people who have faced all forms of adversity. and how do you get away then from that sense

. >> you wrote this book together coming out of the death of dave goldberg. it started actually when dave read the first book that i wrote on generosity and introduced me to sheryl and said the two of you should get to know each other. she started grilling me on gender differences in my data so i freaked out, reanalyzed my data, found these differences between women and men and she said we should write about this. when dave died, we were all devastated. after the funeral there were family and friends staying at her house and she said what can i do to get my kids through this? with my psychologist hat on i made a list of things that helped kids build resilience and we had a book to write so here we are. >> let's talk about kids and resilience first because that is a fascinating chapter in the book. what do you put at the top of the list? >> i think the most important thing for kids is they have to know that they matter. this is something that's true whether kids are facing small challenges or major adversity. mattering is just the answer to the question do i ha

in 2015 the couple was on vacation in mexico when dave goldberg suddenly died while exercising.man opens up in a new book, "option b," facing adversity, building resilience, and finding joy." we spoke with her on sunday. it's her first in-depth television interview since goldberg's death. >> what was your immediate thought? >> i thought he had fallen off an exercise machine. that's what the initial report said. then we got the autopsy. then it showed he died of coronary disease. he had cardiac arrhythmia, so he died before he hit the floor. >> reporter: cheryl sanldsberg, she faced her toughest challenge. >> i flew home and told my children. they were 7 and 10, that they'd never see their father again, and as anyone who's ever been through something like this will tell you, it feels like you're not going to get through a police department, let alone an hour, let alone a day. >> and that idea that you're not going to get through it is why she wrote this book. there's a number of really helpful tips experiencing what she calls post-traumatic growth. >> what does she mean like that

in 2015 the couple was on vacation in mexico when dave goldberg suddenly died while exercising. businesswoman opens up in a new book "option b facing adversity building resilience and finding joy." we spoke for "cbs sunday morning" her first in depth television interview since goldberg's death. >> what were your initial thoughts? what did you think had happened? >> i thought he had fallen off an exercise machine and that is what the initial report said. we got an autopsy and the autopsy showed he died of coronary artery disease. he had a cardiac arrhythmia so he died before he hit the floor. >> reporter: sandberg, the chief operating officer at facebook and author of "lean in" her controversial manifesto on women in the work place, faced her toughest challenge. >> i flew home and told my children. they were 7 and 10. they would never see their father again. as anyone who has ever been through something like this will tell you, feels like you're not going to get through a minute, let alone an hour or a day. >> that idea you're not going to get through it is why she wrote this boo

two years later, her beloved husband dave goldberg died suddenly and unexpectedly.make the most of "option b," the title of her new book. please welcome our dear friend, sheryl sandberg. [ applause ] >> as it should be. >> thank you, robin. >> i enjoyed reading the book, got so much out of it and i'm going to say something right here. in our control room, lily, our dear director, just lost her father and she really needs this segment, as many people do in suffering loss. tell people what you mean by "option b"? >> my husband died suddenly, and it's an unimaginable thing to live through. i felt like there was a void closing in on me. i wouldn't be able to breathe. above all i really worried that my kids' happiness would have just been wiped out in that instant we lost dave. and so i turned to my friend adam grant, a psychologist, and i said what do i do, what do i do to get myself through this, get my kids through this. what he taught me was that we're not born with a fixed amount of resilience. it's a muscle everyone can build. a few weeks later, i was talking to my

goldberg were vacationing with friends two years ago. >> tell me about the moment you realized something was wrong. >> i had been asking where he was. has anyone seen daveaybe he's back if the room. maybe he's out with friends. when he didn't show up for dinner, i said, he's not here. my sister yelled out where's the gym. >> what did you find? >> he was leeing on the floor, his head was turned and thrust with a little bit of blood under his head. i had just screamed. >> what were your initial thoughts? >> i thought he had fallen off the exercise ma kmeen. that's what the initial report said. then we got an autopsy. he died of coronary disease. he died before he hit the floor. >> that's why he fell. >> that's why he fell. i thought he died from falling off an exercise machine, i thought, what if i had looked for him sooner, what if i had assumed he went to the gym and found him, would i have saved him. and it wasn't true. i couldn't have. but one of the thing writing this book is we blame ourselves, we blame ourselves when it's our fault, we blame ourselves when it's not our fault and not blaming ourselves is such a huge part of recovery. >> the book pub