[laughter] >> you compare your mother in law the don corleone in that speech. [laughter] >> exactly. you have to ask her. [laughter] >> you talked about the first lady being seen glamorous and etc., are we too obsessed with your hair and makeup and clothing? >> yes. for sure. i do not think we will get around it. maybe when we have a first gentleman. critique the way they look all the time. their choice in tie or their hairstyle or whatever. or maybe their weight. what is your advice for the first gentleman? >> stand back and be quiet. i don't know. it would be interesting when it happens with the first gentleman. i hope that will take on men's health. >> in your book, you call this a parlor game. if you had disagreement on policy with the president, how'd you get that across or would you? >> i would, of course. i would tell him, the parlor game part is to find out, the press try to know, what did you think about it and how does that differ from your husband thinks? my answer was always, i am not the one, you did not elect me. i do not have to tell you what i t