i mean, i think when don hewitt, the "60 minutes" producer, called me and said, "i had no idea it was so hard for meredith and i've learned a lot," i think that that's pretty reflective of men in high positions in general. we talk a lot in this country about whether there is or isn't a level playing field in the workplace, particularly now that there's this debate about affirmative action. and the truth is that even when some external obstacles have been dismantled -- and many have, but many still exist, as you see in my book -- that it's not a level playing field for women because women bring their entire lives to their jobs, men don't. men tend to be able to compartmentalize their lives in a way that women cannot. they deal with conflict a lot better. meredith vieira's husband said to me, "one of the problems i think meredith has and i think a lot of the women professionals i know have is that she has no dimmer switch. she doesn't know how to deal with the conflict. i can modify my reaction to something that's bothering me according to sort of the level that i need to be able to con