flanders children are worldly. the teenagers help raise the younger ones. meanwhile, jennifer and dougntain a traditional role of the sexes. rooted in their biblical beliefs. >> how does this work with you and doug, how doe do the roles ? >> when we first met, it was very important to me that we're on the same page. i as a christian, the husband was to be a leader and the wife was to respect and split to that. >> does that mean he's the boss if you are submissive? >> yeah, i don't really like that term either but he -- because that sounds so domineering and that is not my husband. he's very gracious, and he takes into consideration what i think about things. you know. >> i'm going to have the black bean veggie burger. >> but in decisions that have to be played that we don't see eye to eye in, it just means that he gets that final vote. he gets to pick. >> thank you for all these sweet kids here and all the good things you're doing in their life. >> what feedback do you get from people at times -- >> that word very often it has such bad connotations but if you look at how our society wo