dr. gail saltz is here with tips for navigating that situation.s more than people might realize. just as a starting point, a lot of parents do make friends via their kids, right? >> correct. when you pick up your children at school, when they're little you interact with other parents and that's where especially moms often make their closest friends. but then, you're linked to the friendship somewhat. so actually, to tell you the truth, savannah, this is really ubiquitous but it's kind of a dirty little secret. moms don't like to talk about the fact that they could break up their own friendships over what their kids are doing. >> and there's so many emotions involved when you're talking about kids. >> more emotions. because you're sometimes so identified with your child that it's even more painful when something is going on with your child, their child, and their friends, then when it's you, with another adult. >> let's talk about the two most common scenarios. the first one is when the friend of your child does something that you feel hurts your c

dr. gail saltz is a psychiatrist and "today" contributor.ng to tell us how to handle those unpleasant behaviors before they stink up the relationship. we need you. >> it's easy to giggle about some of these things but annoying habits can become anything issues in a relationship. >> they can. it's a matter of how it's dealt with. so these are human behaviors that everybody has. i admit. i have scratched my back with a fork. >> i was going to get to that. >> i have done it. but not in public. so the point is the public starts, you know, first your partner is somebody that you were romancing and you don't do these things in front of. and then your partner becomes somebody you just sort of let it all hang out with but you still want them to feel sexually attracted to you. >> let's show a list of some of the top annoying habits. i was surprised to see using a fork to scratch the back was really high on the list. >> and don't eat with it afterwards. >> and does it work? >> just kidding. >> that's the problem. >> many of these things are what i wou

dr. gail saltz is a "today" contributor as well as the mother of three girls. dr. sophy i love how you put it. there's no more fascinating and frightening dynamic than a mother/daughter dynamic. >> it goes from zero to 100 in about two seconds and back. and your head is spinning sometimes. it's a scary relationship. it's volatile. but it's a really very important relationship. >> gail, i met a lot of people who say i have a great relationship with my mother, i adore my mother, she's my best friend, would also say at some times i've had problems with my mom or there are tensions there. they're not mutually exclusive propositions. >> not at all. i think there has to be both. that's how you work things through. because if you don't have some conflict you're probably not honest about what's going on in your relationship. you can't be the clone of your mother. and that -- therefore, there are going to be disagreements. >> absolutely. >> really that's the bottom line. >> every relationship has that. >> you saids there always an element of competitiveness between mothe

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