dr. hilfer says cliques are nothing new.eens have been trying to figure out how to deal with them for >> i would certainly tell a kid who was excluded from a clique to try to recognize that these groups aren't for everybody. >> that's the same advice carol weston gives in her book, "for teens only." carol says she often hears teens say "no one likes me. >> i would say there's such a difference between "no one likes me" and "i want to be popular." i mean, "i want to be popular," a lot of people feel that and then it's almost like they grow out of it and then they realize that it's more valuable to have a couple of friends than to be one of the, you know, popular kids. >> reporter: here's more advice in dealing with cliques, and some of it come from teens like you. don't be one of the herd. >> find people who you are more compatible with instead of just trying to get into a specific group. >> reporter: choose your friends based on who they are, not the group they belong too. >> just ignore the actual cliques and try to get to