dr. wendy walsh.n needs to ask her man or potential mate several important questions, explain that to me. >> she has to find out several things if she marries a guy. not all men are born to be cheaters. look at his history of relationships, does he have a bunch of angry exes, has he fooled around before? how much guilt does he feel? did you know that men actually feel much less guilt than women? >> if you have a pencil and piece of paper, start writing this stuff down. fair warning. please continue. >> people their motive for behavior are shaped by how much guilt you feel. if you're dating a guy and he has no problem bending the rules at work even though it's going to hurt a co-worker, chances are he's not going to find a lot of compassion for you when he's cheating on you. you want him to take pieces of you into that mental compartment and not have an affair. men feel the least amount of guilt in their 40s and 50s. >> they feel i have lived a little. >> something dr. drew addressed. does he fear emot

dr. wendy walsh joins us and you're the author of "the boyfriend guide."u think this keeps happening to powerful men? >> these are like the star hunters from our past. they brought back the woolly mammoth for the whole village which gave them access to more females, right? today's hunters are the athletes, actors, the wall street power brokers. >> high profile. >> they're risk takers, they want a sense of entitlement, it's never too much for them. but what is the psychological underpinning? could there be a bit of narcissism? people think narcissism is i'm great, i deserve all this. the underbelly is actually a sense of self-loathing. trying to make up for what they don't deserve. >> there's a prime time drama based on this called "the god wife." why do these wives stand by their accused men? >> well, women love love. women define themselves through their relationships. and their relationship and their attachment and the security of their family is sometimes far more important than losing him physically. >> so why are they attracted to these bad boys? if t

dr. wendy walsh, very interesting.ve a whole lot to talk about, especially tonight because we're rupping the special. it's called in the newsroom, sex, lies, and arrogance. we're going to talk about the men behaving badly. it airs tonight on cnn. power, popularity, influence. why do so many men in positions of power cheat. what did you think when you first heard that arnold schwarzenegger's mother of his love child had been living in the house for more than ten years? what was your gut reaction? >> as a woman, dog, scoundrel. as someone who studies psychology and human behavior, i would say some degree of narcissism, a sense of entitlement, and how could he maintain this life for so long and live with it. >> sa save some of that for 10:00 p.m. eastern. sex, lies, and arrogance. why do so many men in positions of power really have a history of cheating? we're going to examine that, 10:00 p.m. eastern, and dr. wendy will join us. >>> in the meantime, pope benedict xvi speaks to millions every day, but it's not every day

dr. wendy walsh, what do you do? you don't know if it's going to hit. you know it's coming.ou don't know how bad it's going to be. you heard the lady say this has the potential and probably is going to wipe out everything we have. >> this fear and anxiety can wear on someone because they don't know where it's coming, how much is coming, and how much it will destroy. what we're seeing is a well designed system of levees and spillways designed to save large areas, but at the same time, those who have farms and livestock, and have to rush to higher ground, this anxiety is hard to take, and i hope there's a way they can find a way to reassure themselves it's for there better good. it's for the bigger america and all the states that are suffering here. not just louisiana. >> here is my question because when i go back and talk to people on the phone, katrina is just, you know, it could be the next sentence. it's always in the back of people -- not even in the back of people's minds. it's on the tip of your tongue. you talk about the traffic, more traffic in baton rouge. people don

dr. wendy walsh is here. i think we've even seen some of this already in joplin.ors just walking around not knowing what to do. what do you do to pick up, do the work and carry on? >> this is really what you're talking about is the first stage of trauma which is kind of numbness and it's really crucial that people do a number of things in this stage to stave off potential for a full blown stress traumatic stress disorder which can last decades or a lifetime. that problem with integrating these painful memories with a new life without the stressors. so some of the things people can do is make sure they talk about it. this is especially hard for men because men aren't accustom to tending and befriending like women do. it's important for guys to talk about what they're feeling and what they saw and talk about experiences and feelings of loss. second thing, don't be alone. that's a duh to me but it's important that people gather together and share stories and integrate the whole experience and third, all kinds of research shows the best way to stave off depression and