e. jean carroll and host of i heart radio's love life with matthew hussey. >> we love it.questions? >> yes. >> let's begin. lisa says this. been married almost 24 years to a good man, i've been telling him what i like and don't like from food to sex and he still doesn't get it. >> for 24 years. >> now what? >> 24 years. >> long years, i bet. >> firstly, at this stage, it is either that he doesn't care or he doesn't get it. if he doesn't get it, it is down to her communication. if he doesn't care, it is a deficiency with him in the relationship. if he doesn't get it, a quick tip for her, make it his idea. it if she says, look, i've been telling you about all these things i want and you're not doing them still, help me, how do we solve this. let him come up with a solution and see what he says. by the way, she should also shine a light on herself in that moment and say, by the way, while we're at it, is there something i can do to please you. now you're creating this turning point of a moment in a relationship where you're saying, here's where things could change. >> e. jean