edlund prays for them regularly and the moon is affected whether this family had good day or bad. she often wonders why god would do that to a family. we can look at our own struggles and think our children despite the pain and discomfort are with us. we can see how much more empathetic and sympathetic we are, not a post but a reality. we know from our own struggles a home-cooked meal is in need, the best thing to do. even though it is different we relate to other people suffering. i remember a preacher coming to sunday school after suffering and death. he tells of a lady in his church who was in a car wreck. people flooded her hospital room to comfort her as she was broken, bruised and crying and no one could console her. her best friend walked in, climbed into the hospital, held the lady and cried, and many of us have not, to shield our souls for suffering and pain, losing an ability to related care for other people. living requires suffering, steady flow of conformity takes away appreciation for the good times, takes away the good times. 16 years of marriage, 17 as of today, we