eie reform the tax code.n right now, for a variety of reasons, some say economically sensible not to stay tied to a woman anymore. they don't have to. the result is that the kids pay the price. and i think women just have to lay down the law. [laughter] melissa: i don't know. i don't know if i -- >> don't let men have everything their way. say no! >> melissa: i don't know that having -- >> after 40 years of marriage i can say that women are the boss. melissa: i don't know how you fix it. lay it out as a problem. i'm not sure it's a choice. you are talking about it like it's a choice. i don't know that people choose. >> of course it's a choice. melissa: i don't know. >> our society has changed. marriage is what you did to marriage is something you don't have to do at all. you can have children even if you can't a afford to raise a child. have a child and somebody else will take care of raising that child. it's a conscious decision people are making and it's a moral judgment. and societies and morals change. th