i will tell you that ellen goodman, the columnist from off and has had the conversation project and icause you can actually download all the forms that you will need to have that conversation. and my husband was no road map, although i do know that my husband would not have considered this living by any stretch of the imagination. and there are some people who are here to do my husband professionally and they are shaking their heads. this is a very cruel disease. the doctors just want to diagnose. trying to get a doctor to a doctor, lots of luck. i'm a doctor's wife so i type up my observations. they disappear and come back and i am brushed aside. i detail the journey and i was ignored. totally ignored. and once ignored, then i became his victim. i was denying my husband access to things that he's wanted. try to take a porsche away from a nifty six-year-old man. we all wait too long to try to give a loved one their independence. my rule of fun is anticipated and anticipate. i went in one night old the plug on his car and i don't understand foreign cars, but i pulled whatever was there