joining roxane on stage is co-host of the call your girlfriend podcast, emina -- [inaudible] without further ado, please join me in welcoming roxane gay. [cheers and applause] [inaudible conversations] >> we're taking a selfie. [laughter] my sister's going to be so jell-oous. [laughter] -- jealous. >> hello. >> thanks so much for joining us today. i'm so excited to talk to you. this book is amazing. [laughter] >> yeah. [laughter] >> you know, i mean, you're like kanye to me, only shoot three-pointers. so i knew i wasn't going to be -- >> speaking of three-pointers, there's a basketball game tonight. sorry. [laughter] [inaudible conversations] >> but i was so struck by so many things when i read the book. i had to to stop many times because it was very emotional, it was really raw. and i was so -- i was just reminded of how just generous you are as a person, who someboy who is not afraid to say the thing we are all thinking or should be thinking and helps us be a little more brave. and, yeah, can you kind of talk to us about, you know, what was hard about writing for you? >> everythin