i'm rabbi eric weiss. i am honored to be your host this morning. we are in the middle of a wonderful conversation about how they discovered their jewishness. jim, you were talking before the break, and marny was sharing how her own adulthood at a certain point when she discovered she was jewish influenced her sense of jewishness. and i'm wondering how yourself how that was for you. >> somewhat similarly. i came out when i was 20 as a gay man. and so my identity kind of arranged or rearranged itself. and this felt somewhat similar when my mother revealed this identity. it's like, oh, okay. so i completely changed and was completely the same. and i took myself to synagogue thinking, oh, well, maybe now i'll find the services much more meaningful, maybe now i will know the songs and i won't feel ooh like such an interloper. and of course none of that changed because i hadn't grown up as a jew. so i sort of liken it to an analogy of being transgender, a transgender person doesn't have the childhood of the gend

i'm rabbi eric weiss and honored to be your host. we're in the middle of the wonderful conversation with professor rachel gross and alex. >> what were you thinking alex about this notion of every day food and what we eat? >> living in the bay area, i'm so used to, i have so many friends with dietary restrictions and i would say so many of my friends are gluten free or dairy free, the list goes on, and i had my cousins visiting this past weekend who grew up on the east coast, at least my cousin did and his wife and his son. i wanted to have a bagel brunch and it is something i never think of doing when it is just my husband and i. we don't get bagels even though there is a great bagel shop down the street. i thought i want lox and cream cheese, i want the whole thing and that is what you do with family. growing up on the east coast, their family always had bagel brunch when we came over and so many do on the weekends. i find that michael that my california friends it is not their tradition. it has been a source of, i have found some j