let's get more on this now from ericka souter, our friend ericka souter. and, you know, there was a lot of good advice there but what do you say to parents for that first meeting? >> it's normal to go into judgmental mode. this is your baby. they're bringing home someone. is this person good enough? so your human nature kicks in. and you are very hypercritical. but the most important thing to you know, it's the holidays. have fun with your kids. create new memories and think of it that way. we also want to have an open mind. yes, this person isn't likely to be who you envisioned for your prince or your princess but that's okay. lastly, having an open heart. you know, this kid coming into your house or this person coming into your house is nervous to meet you and want to impress you so embrace them and make them feel comfortable. >> let's say you give the person a chance but after three or four months or a year you really don't like hem. >> that's when moms put their foot down. i don't like this person for x, y, z. and often the effect is the romeo and juli

we're joined now by ericka souter. he thinks he'd like to. i know i would like to. >> i would too. >> what do you think about this? >> my first reaction was to roll my eyes and there was a little jealousy. who hasn't wanted an unlimited amount of cash and go anywhere you want but adults can put it in perspective. we watch it and move on. with kids we see something different happening. they're obsessing. they're following these people. they want what they have and they can't let it go. >> fomo, fear of missing out. >> like the modern day equivalent of keeping up with the joneses for kids. they feel pressure and anxiety even though they don't recognize it and they try to compete. they equate having likes on facebook and instagram as popularity and feel their worth is tied up in being able to emulate these >> you wonder what is behind these kids putting all this out and where their parents are. what about tips for parents who are dealing with kids who are feeling this kind of fear? >> i like to call it the fomo fix. there are three thingsou can

ined by ericka souter. he thihinks he'd like to. i know i would like to. what do you think. >> my first r reaction was to roll my eyes and there was a little jealousy who hasn't wanted an unlimited amount of cash and go anywhere they want. we watat it and move on. with kids we see something different about it and they'y're following it and want what they have >> fomomo, fearr of missing out. >> like the modern day equivavalent of keeping up with the joins for kids. they feel pressure and anxiety and they try to compe. facebook and instagram as popularity and feel theirir worth is tied upp in emulating these peoplele >> you wonder what is behehind theseids putting this out. whatat about tips for parents w are dealing with kids who are feeling this kind of fear? >> i like to call it the fomo fix. number one, help your kid find their bliss, art,music, dance, get them involved in on activity they love and can become volved in their own success than someone else. another thing, make sure they know that looks can be deceiving. we see that picturehat one moment i

george with parenting expert and editor of mom.com, ericka souter. >> if you can pull this off, there are real benefits. >> absolutely. i'm not going to pretend this is an easy thing to do. it's not. we have talked to parents who have done it successfully. they say the most important thing is that the kids have to feel that they have a solid family unit though the parents are not in the same house. >> i can understand how some kids could get confused. >> absolutely. especially dealing with young children. they may think, oh, great, mom and dad are getting back together. even older children can hold out hope. parents say the best thing to do is to communicate and say, dad's going back to his house. mom will be at her house. but we're spending the holiday together as family. >> you have to have a real open heart and flexibility. >> a lot of flexibility. there are three things that parents need to do. number one, they do need to be flexible. how things come together. number two, communicate with each other so everyone is on the same page when it comes to what's best for the kids. lastly,

. >> ericka souter, thank you very much. over to amy. >>> we are in the final days of the year which means it is time for barbara walters' annual ten most fascinating people special always one of the most anticipated specials of the year. bradley cooper, tracy morgan and amy schumer just a few of the people to make the list and i sat down with barbara for a sneak peek. >> i think this -- you always say hadthis is the best list but it has some drama. it has mr. trump and bernie sanders and then bradley cooper. >> you like bradley cooper. >> i love bradley cooper. he is a very nice man. i'm being quoted as saying that he's very screwable. i have to be careful. >> you'll make me blush. >> i think that's a clean word. am i okay with that? it's because when he was starting out his agent said that he -- he didn't say screwable. won't say. >> i think i know where you're going. something very revealing that bradley cooper told you, so let's take a look at that. >> interesting. i didn't know this about him. >> in your late 20s, you s