well because i think for many asian-americans, particularly the ones that have immigrant families, et etera, this idea of being too big is something that is such a huge preure. >> it's like the stereotype? >> it is a stereotype. >> what is the stair oe >> it is a stereotype. >> what is the stair reostereot? >> i think the stereotype that is ot there in the mass media and is actually very internalized amongst our own cultures is that asian-american women are just born naturally skinny. that we apparently have a skinny gene. we are petite and this is how we are supposed to look. and it's very damaging for people who don't fit, you ow, within that mold because they start to really question themselves about whether or not they are really a part of this community and whether or not they are, quote unquote, asian enough. so, you know, and i think self confidence, self-esteem, everything just kind of rolls from that. >> well, you're a big resource, so how -- what's your advice for women and for men? >> well, i ink as we see more and more of these stors, lynn and i always come back to this idea of