she said years earlier, her mother said take everythingexperience, you'll laugh about it later. there were all these different sides. as a friend, we had a not very distinguished club of sorts. we would meet every four or five weeks. did you ever come to our harpies? >> once. >> so we called ourselves the harpies. it was liz smith and cynthia mcfadden and peggy siegel. we would discuss everybody else's facelift. at christmas time, we would bring all the presents we didn't want and give them to each other. so in private life, there was also that tremendous wit, but great warmth and love. and i've got to mention her husband of 25 year who was a wonderful author himself. "wise guys" and "casino" and what a sweet and gentle man he was. and what a great marriage that was. >> yeah. that was certainly the great -- >> that is so true. and after her two previous marriages, his first marriage, there they were, they found each other. i just came from their home where so many friends had gathered and where nick is sort of looking at life without her. which is sort of amazing because they we