the evidence of this is a survey of 250,000 men and women. 90% of the women felt excolluded in the work place. 90% of the men had no idea women were excluded. it is a blind spot. >> we need to take a break. when we come back we'll talk about where we need to start with this. who wants to be the first to change the game? stay with us. >>> welcome back. work with me is john gray's new home. you know him from the mars venus philosophy. this is his first one he's coauthored with a woman who informed him of some thing. turns out we are not getting it right in the work place. so what. first of all, let's get sexual harassment out of the way. are you talking about that? as recently as the mayor of san diego. >> this is shocking. i can't believe this. >> talk about the work place. our civic leaders are still messing up things. you think these guys are bright. if they are not so bright people will fix them so they are bright by the time they hit a microphone and talk to him. >> it is a subset in this book. we talked about that for 20 years. they are still not getting it right. what's missing is