flannery: she was fussing at her. leah's fussing at her, and that hurt her feelings. when these insults fly, our job is to work with the attacker and point out what he's really upset about, what the true source of his anger is so he doesn't transform that aer into prejudice. her horse is beautifuler than ashley's. second child: uh-uh! i did not say that! hendrick: at the same time, victims of such attacks should have ample opportunity to protest and speak up for themselves. insults do hurt, and we can't pretend they don't. woman: her face is looking pretty sad. hendrick: while acknowledging this, the teacher should also make a big point of saying that just because someone says you're something doesn't make it true. while these are not easy or necessarily comfortable situations for us to confront, they can also provide excellent opportunities for us to clear up confusion and to provide accurate information that is vital if our children are to develop healthy attitudes about race, gender, and identity. woman: that sounds like a perfect idea. i bet your bear will make yo