the sudden are driving into a neighborhood with that type of car, wearing your custom-made suits, flounting, the successes that you've had, it tends to exaggerate something that, you know, is dividing us. >> maybe it's not flaunting. maybe these are things you worked hard for that you ought to be able to cherish and hold onto without others looking at you as flaunting it. >> i think that it is on some level, there is a discomfort with flaunting, i think that, used to be a real important staple in african-american culture, and i think that we are losing that. >> and i think it stems from attitude. it's not so much that you have the trappings, but that all of us want to be able to enjoy the spoils of whatever it is that we've been blessed and be able to afford but it's all about the attitudes, what do you do with it? if you're also giving back, if you're also within your community. it depends on how you talk to people. i always teach my son, you know, everyone, whether it's the person that waits on us at the restaurant, the person who parks your car, search a human being. you treat everyone t