. >> when i was a kid, we used to watch robin hood with daryl for flyn. errol n. i would ask, did you know him? her voice would trail off. i would ask questions. what happened to your mom? how is your relationship? it was putting messages in a bottle and sending it off and a bottle would return within minutes, hours, days later. charlie: i have often said, what kiddo, what i do, every ought to interview their parents and talk about their lives, understand what they have done. i have often talked to my father. not nearly as much as i wanted to. he saw the worst of the war, the battle of the bulge. > my mom never really had a conversation with her mother. charlie: did you try? >> it was not appropriate. same thing with gertrude. i knew little about my mother. >> we all people had her's of the past and the things parents have done and things that we say we end up repeating. seeing what she has done, it has been a revelation to me. we have this fantasy of the letter from our fathers. that was something i didn't realize. charlie: was there a letter? >> no letter. >> i