i must say that it would be so nice if we could have paid fmla than have to use your sick leave for fmla. host: can you talk about that for a little bit? guest: this is what we hear from a lot of people. when you have the opportunity to care for your mother when she's sick, when you have the opportunity to care for your baby when she's born or for yourself, you know. i was just thinking about my own birth. i had a c section. that was eight weeks when i wasn't allowed to walk up and downstairs when i was recovering from my own surgery. and when i was taking care of a baby. it was great that i had a partner. my husband was able to stay home and take care of the baby with me. i can't imagine how that would have worked otherwise. these are basic things. these are about how we love the people in our lives and how we care for them. and right now i think we all feel we're stretched way too thin, right? that we're working too much and that what we have to sacrifice tends not to be at work but at home with the people that we love most and can be heartbreaking. this is harder for people who can af