if i think that i would have been like frederic mike frederis mother. i would have dared one of my explorers like the one on my knee from a cookout when i was six and told you to remember me by it in the crowd defenseless neighbor and if i didn't have a landmark on my flesh i would have made one for you, carved it in to my right arm. so you know, this life that we have is grace in the catholic tradition there is a form of grace that is the stuff of your soul. it's not defined by moments of mercy or opportunity. it isn't good things happening to you. rather, it is the good thing in regardless of what happens. you carry this down through generations, same as the trauma of the slave master society but it is the bigger part. it is what made the ancestors hold on so that he could become. [applause] one of the things i -- earlier this summer i was in florence and i saw and one of the questions i asked was how many so there was a repetition of mothers who had their sons taken away and i am resistant to the repetition that that could have been my son because we