gail wyatt: i think that violence in our society is very common...y perplexing to many americans, because it's reached the upper echelons. as long as it occurred in people of color or poor people or homeless people, criminals, you know, it was something that people could say, "well, it's those people." but when you see it occurring in suburban areas and in affluent families, and communities, i think it really begins to shake the roots of this society and begins to call into question... what exactly is happening. i think that's very unfortunate. i think if we had been concerned about anyone being a victim of violence, we would have been a lot better prepared but any phenomena that's left unchecked is going to move into the basic core of our society. maybe finally, in this country, because violence has seeped out of inner city, we'll begin to address treating it as an epidemic. and that means that we're not only going to treat littleton, colorado, but we're also going to treat compton, california, with the same energy in identifying the problems there

gail wyatt: we need to appreciate, it's not just adults who are stressed. kids have a lot of pressure on them, to do their homework, to have friends, to make friends, to-- you know, connect in so many different ways, to participate in extracurricular activities, to do well, to be what their parents want them to be, lots of stressors. a certain amount of stress is necessary for life. deborah khoshaba: on a moment-to-moment basis, our body is always in the process of gauging how much arousal we need to function. okay? see, right now as i'm speaking, my sympathetic nervous system is on, and although i don't feel anxiety, i do feel a certain amount of arousal. you would say the organism's under stress. so stress is a very interesting term in that sense, that we're wired to respond to the environment. for many people, stress is so ingrained in their lives that it begins to feel natural. you'd be surprised how few people know what stress really is, because they're so accustomed to it. it becomes part of their everyday world, and they can't appreciate it until the