his lover, golan cipel, and his friend and benefactor charles kushner. let's take those two bad decisions one at a time. when was it that you actually became intimate with golan? >> um. >> i don't keep a diary i'm surprised that jim mcgreevey didn't remember the date, because, according to his autobiography, it was one night when his wife was in the hospital recovering from the birth of their daughter. >> so the timing of this is interesting. you win election in november 2001. you and golan have your first actual moment as lovers. in december 2001. and then a few weeks after you're sworn in, talking to reporters, you mentioned him. >> yeah. >> publicly? yep. in february 2002, at a meeting with the press defending new hires in homeland security, mcgreevey said, we will not skimp on security. and he added that golan cipel was, quote, a security advisor from the israeli defense forces, probably the best in the world, not probably. they do the best in the world. you still think he was qualified for that job? >> he was. >> he wasn't home, by the way. >> wasn'